What Would Be Your Reason For Dating Someone?
When deciding whether or not you should go out with a person, or date a person, what do you look at first? Is it that they are cute? Would mere attraction be the reason that you would initially start dating someone? I’ve seen people who have different dates every other week, but doesn’t that make them seem kind of easy? But if you don’t date different people, how would you ever be able to find that special someone?
February 21st, 2010 at 22:23
dating different people each week doesn’t make you easy. But having sex w/ all of them probably does.
dating is not sex. However, if you don’t know the difference between the two then I can understand your confusion.
as long as you aren’t making promises that you don’t intend to keep & you aren’t lying to anyone and making them think that they are the only person you are seeing, then you can date as many people as you like.
as to how I decide to go out w/ someone:
there is an attraction that is physical and/or intellectual. That mysterious “spark” that ignites the imagination that says, “you need to get to know this person better.”
but that’s when I’m meeting them and asking or accepting dates. When it’s a blind date, I’ve just mentioned that I’d like to meet someone new & let my friends, family or coworkers set me up w/ someone. If we have enough in common then we will see each other again. If we don’t, then we tried and we met someone new who might become a friend.
when the purpose is for romance, then the attraction has to have a physical componet for me as I value sex as a part of a serious relationship and I can’t imagine myself having sex w/ someone I’m not attracted to. (I’ve been told that I have “eclectic” taste in men. I’m not sure if that means the person who said this just can’t figure out what I like or if some of my dates were not to that person’s liking.)
February 21st, 2010 at 22:47
Well, attraction is first. They must be pleasing to the eye to start. Then personality is most important. You gotta be able to carry on a conversation with some one with ease. If you have to try to make conversation then it isn’t gonna work out, usually.
Dating is like shopping for clothes, you gotta try on different clothes to see which one fits best.
Dating multiple people doesn’t make you easy, having sex with all the people you date makes you easy.
February 21st, 2010 at 23:07
I wasnt attracted to my fiance at all when we first started dating. He just treated me well and I decided he deserved at least one date and an open mind. So for me, my reason for dating him was that he seemed like a nice person. Then he grew on me more and more.
I don’t see any problem with single people dating around casually. Dating is fun. As long as they’re not sleeping with every one of them, that doesn’t make them easy at all.
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February 22nd, 2010 at 00:05
You’re right. I never thought about dating things other than what I like. But there’s usually no spark, so my feelings are just…blah.
I love my girlfriend I’m with now…and to be honest, I went out of my norm, to getting into a interracial relationship, and I love it. I love her! So yeah, some sacrifices are good.
February 22nd, 2010 at 00:48
Appearance, and whether I feel comfortable when getting with that person.